Parents can potentially be the worst evil a child can have in his or her life. Presence of parents, more often than not, leads to stunted growth, as an effect of the conflict between the vision and way of life of parents, and the natural instinct leading to an approach/attitude which is unique and true for the child himself/herself. This intrinsic conflict will always lead to a middle compromise, which is neither this nor that; along with a sense of (sub)conscious conflict and unsettlement, for the child, surfacing as s/he grows. Growth, the flourishing of a true character, can only happen in an environment without any such influencing effects. In the presence of such effects, for the child's own character to truly flourish, it now takes a vital part of the adulthood life, where a person has to unlearn the vast multitude of socially engineered feeds, and re-learn everything through his truly own unique senses, if that ever happens.
Everything we need to know about the world, we have already experienced them in our childhood, in our natural and unmoderated interactions with peers. Politics, trade, negotiations, power struggle, leading, following, being a hero, hero worshipping, espionage, counter-espionage, unionisation, success, failure, etc. - everything we say we 'learn from the world' in our adulthood, we would actually have had already gone through in our childhood. And the world has nothing new to offer or teach in the forms of these.
Today, we see an understanding prevailing that a child needs his/her parents. This is without grounds, I should say, beyond the age of six. Everything a parent can give to a child has already been given, through the genes, and through the initial survival and purely biological protection seeing past the stage of infancy and babyhood. Beyond that, there is nothing more a parent can ever hope to bestow his/her child with. Our ancient ways, like more than half a millennia ago, already addressed this - we had systems of "gurukool" prevailing, where a child would be sent away from home for further development and education. How many generations would we need to wake up again to our ancient wisdoms?
I have very rarely come across (through direct acquaintances or indirectly acquired knowledge), if at all, parents who in spite of staying with their child, have been able to overcome this negative effect.
The second most dangerous element in the growth of a child, I cannot say 'evil' here because it can be both a blessing or a curse, is peers of his/her own age. Even though, for natural growth, a necessary ingredient is leaving a child uninfluenced among his peers; yet, owing to the fact that children are among the most ruthless creatures that ever existed, this can also, at times, create negative effects. In having regular unmoderated time among peers, this is a risk the child is exposed to, but I would still say that the benefits outweigh the risks. In any case, observations, but un-influencing in effect within the time window of peer interactions, can be used towards follow up counsellings, thereby reducing the negative impacts and thereby reducing risk weightage. This is where you replenish needs of security, love and a 'safe' environment, in case they are depleted through unmoderated interactions. And of course, it is not necessary that the 'parents' play this part. Anyone properly equipped with the understanding is suitable; and more often than not, parents are not unbiasedly equipped.
The only learning we may not completely have as a child, and that because it requires a time window and feelings spanning beyond the years of childhood, is on that whose nearest understanding I can only seek to roughly convey by what present civilization attempts to define by the word 'love'.
Everything we need to know about the world, we have already experienced them in our childhood, in our natural and unmoderated interactions with peers. Politics, trade, negotiations, power struggle, leading, following, being a hero, hero worshipping, espionage, counter-espionage, unionisation, success, failure, etc. - everything we say we 'learn from the world' in our adulthood, we would actually have had already gone through in our childhood. And the world has nothing new to offer or teach in the forms of these.
Today, we see an understanding prevailing that a child needs his/her parents. This is without grounds, I should say, beyond the age of six. Everything a parent can give to a child has already been given, through the genes, and through the initial survival and purely biological protection seeing past the stage of infancy and babyhood. Beyond that, there is nothing more a parent can ever hope to bestow his/her child with. Our ancient ways, like more than half a millennia ago, already addressed this - we had systems of "gurukool" prevailing, where a child would be sent away from home for further development and education. How many generations would we need to wake up again to our ancient wisdoms?
I have very rarely come across (through direct acquaintances or indirectly acquired knowledge), if at all, parents who in spite of staying with their child, have been able to overcome this negative effect.
The second most dangerous element in the growth of a child, I cannot say 'evil' here because it can be both a blessing or a curse, is peers of his/her own age. Even though, for natural growth, a necessary ingredient is leaving a child uninfluenced among his peers; yet, owing to the fact that children are among the most ruthless creatures that ever existed, this can also, at times, create negative effects. In having regular unmoderated time among peers, this is a risk the child is exposed to, but I would still say that the benefits outweigh the risks. In any case, observations, but un-influencing in effect within the time window of peer interactions, can be used towards follow up counsellings, thereby reducing the negative impacts and thereby reducing risk weightage. This is where you replenish needs of security, love and a 'safe' environment, in case they are depleted through unmoderated interactions. And of course, it is not necessary that the 'parents' play this part. Anyone properly equipped with the understanding is suitable; and more often than not, parents are not unbiasedly equipped.
The only learning we may not completely have as a child, and that because it requires a time window and feelings spanning beyond the years of childhood, is on that whose nearest understanding I can only seek to roughly convey by what present civilization attempts to define by the word 'love'.
